Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard i

t as a slur (诽谤，中伤) on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough to let the adolescents see that they are【C1】______ . They may even【C2】______ them of disloyalty, or make some sharp remarks about the friends' parents. Such a loss of dignity and descent into【C3】______ behavior. on the part of the adult deeply shocks the adolescents, and makes them【C4】______ that in future they will not talk to their parents about the places or people they visit. Before very long the parents will be【C5】______ that the child is so secretive and never tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this【C6】______ themselves.

Disillusionment with the parents, however good and【C7】______ they may be both as parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high【C8】______ of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it can hardly hope to【C9】______ a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and deeply【C10】______if they realized how much belief their children usually have in their character and infallibility (一贯正确), and how much this【C11】______ means to a child. If parents were prepared for this adolescent【C12】______ , and realized that it was a sign that the child was growing up and developing valuable【C13】______ of observation and independent judgment, they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not【C14】______ the child into opposition by resenting and resisting it.

The adolescent, with his【C15】______ for sincerity, always respects a parent who【C16】______ that he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust. What the child can not forgive is the parents'【C17】______ to admit these charges if the child knows them to be true.

Victorian parents believed that they kept their【C18】______ by retreating behind an unreasoning authoritarian attitude; in fact they did nothing of the kind, but children were then too cowed (恐吓某人使屈从) to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other【C19】______ , but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parents. It is always wiser and safer to【C20】______ reality, however painful it may be at the moment.

【C1】

A．pleased

B．annoyed

C．infected

D．flattered