Father's Stroke Leaves Loving Son Feeling GuiltyDear Harlan,My father recently had a strok

Father's Stroke Leaves Loving Son Feeling Guilty

Dear Harlan,

My father recently had a stroke. When I heard the news, I went to see him and my family right away. I live in California, and they live in Canada. lie is recovering slowly. My mom is with him at the hospital every day making sure that he is getting the therapy and help when he needs. But she is having a hard time emotionally and financially. It's like a nightmare that won't end.

I have a good job here in a band that relies on me. I don't have the money to keep flying there, and my job won't permit me to take more than two days off a week. I feel like quitting everything and being with him and my Mom. I am newly married, which makes the situation hard.

Should I move back home？

Struggling

Dear Struggling,

Listen, you're not being fair to yourself. If you move, you're going to feel guilty because you've abandoned your band, your job and uprooted your new spouse (and both of your lives). If you don't move back home, you're going to feel guilty because you're not there to help. Either way, you're bound to feel guilty. At least live where you can be happy and guilty.

When you cut through all the emotions, your life is not in Canada. Your mom is at home for your dad. Be there to support her (and him) by calling and visiting as much as possible. Make sure your mom knows that you're trying to balance it all and help. Guide her toward emotional support. If necessary, take a part-time job on days off to help pay for more visits home. Just avoid abandoning your life, hopes and dreams. No parent would want that.

Harlan

What is the advice that Harlan has given to the man called Struggling？

A．Do not go back to his parents in Canada.

B．Leave his job, his band and his family.

C．Keep calling and if possible, visit more.

D．Balance between the job and the family.